Day 157: Love Languages

Happy Sunday and Day 157 of Another 100 Days of Hannah ...and Counting, y'all!

Guys, today feels like the perfect lazy Sunday.
It’s sunny. It’s warm. There’s a light breeze.
It’s nearing late morning, but there’s been no rushing around.
I’ve kept busy, but haven’t been stressed.
It’s perfect.

Hopefully your day is going the same.

From there though, let’s talk about love languages.

Now, first things first: I know not everyone gives credence to the notion that people show love in different ways – just as not everyone supports theories on the psychology of personality, etc, etc. That’s fine – I don’t need everyone to agree with me. However, love languages and various personality tests have definitely helped me better understand and better love the people in my life, and so, today, I’m going to talk about them.

So, love languages.

The 5 Love Languages is a book by Dr. Gary Chapman that presents the idea of there being five primary ways that individuals give and receive love: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts. His theory is that, while any given individual may employ or enjoy any of these techniques, most individuals have a dominant way of giving and receiving love… which can be determined by taking a 30 question multiple choice test.

Admittedly, the test feels a little sketch. I mean, as someone single, some of the different questions that refer to a significant other seem hard to apply. However, as someone who has taken the test multiple times and gotten a consistent answer that feels applicable, I give it some validity.

My personal ‘dominant’ love language? Quality time. I simply love spending time with the people who matter to me.

Which isn’t to say that I don’t like to receive gifts, or that I don’t value when people help me, or that I don’t appreciate hugs from specific people in my life, or that I don’t cherish well-worded letters from loved ones – I do. It simply means that if I had to pick between spending quality time with someone close to me and any of these other wonderful ways of showing love, I’d pick being together every time.

Why am I saying all this? Great question – I’m not really sure. I guess it’s just really resonated with me this past week; I had the wonderful opportunity to just spend time with some of my favorite people, and that made this week absolutely incredible.

Okay, it’s time for a lazy Sunday lunch.

Catch y’all later.


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